That is the question. Inspired by glandheim, I am asking you…what to do with this Santa character in a Christian family? Growing up, my own parents and siblings plotted to keep me believing in Santa as long as possible to the point it got embarassing at school. I remember my brother and maybe my sister spilled the beans–I think to be mean and laugh at me. I just remember thinking, “Santa is Mom and Dad? That’s stupid.” I would have rather been told the truth earlier than be led on for so long only to be laughed at. I know, this is all so very heartbreaking!
So what do you do with Santa? My daughter’s school is writing letters to Santa. She’s asking about it. I’m showing them tv shows for the sheer purpose of them having a pop culture knowledge. And I’m treating the character of Santa just like any other character they see on tv-Bob the Builder, Barney, etc. But now I don’t know what to tell the kids. Because you know darn well its going to be MY kid that tells their friends Santa isn’t real and I am going to hear it from the parents. I suppose I shouldn’t worry about the other families. They’re not my job.
I don’t want my kids asking for presents or being threatened or asked if they were a good boy or girl? THAT one gets me. Because you know that any parent who has ever used the “Santa’s not going to bring you any presents if you…” threat has NEVER followed through on it.
We visited my sister for an early Christmas before they left out of town on vacation. She could not believe how “easy” my kids were. Every present they opened brought about jumping and screaming with joy. That’s how I want my kids to be. Grateful for whatever they get. Not asking and then being bothered that they didn’t get what was on “the list”. Yick. That happened to me every Christmas man. There was always something that I wanted that I didn’t get and it ruined the whole day for me. Granted part of that was me which I’ll explain another time. Years later I discovered how hard my mom and dad worked to find that one toy or game that everyone had to have and here I am complaining that Santa didn’t bring it. That must have frosted them.
So give me your input. How can we give them reality without causing my 5 yr old relational or cultural conflict? Or should I care?