It hit me today that my 6 yr old, Maddie, is beginning to feel loss but not sure what to do with the emotions. What we saw today as a defiant little girl refusing to say goodbye to her grandparents, was actually a girl unable to handle them leaving. JD and Annaliese(4 & 3) were able to run up and give hugs and kisses and wave as Grandpa and Nana began the 4 hour journey back home.
So now I wonder how she will handle her favorite cousin, Dannielle, going back to Texas after a month long visit. At 13, Dannielle is the big sister Maddie doesn’t have. Braiding hair, showing her the hula hoop, reading books on the couch or on the porch swing at Grandpa’s. Dannielle has bridged the gap between what Maddie would like from me and what I am able or is appropriate for me to do.
I was never good at handling sadness as a child so I don’t know how to instruct Maddie. I always felt stupid for being sad and not comfortable in it. Anyone have thoughts on how I can avoid 30 years of the same for Maddie? She’s growing so quickly and her brain goes a mile a minute. With 2 younger ones swirling about, I feel like I’m falling behind.