Let me expand a little on the being known issue. We have sequestered ourselves in this culture. We want to be social so we go to a coffee shop. But, we bring a laptop or other work to do and we can be social but only as far as our protective boundaries allow. Its easier to stop a conversation when we obviously have something more important going on–thus the reason we bring the laptop etc. We have blogging communities which I have found to be an awesome venue for me. But, I have the safety of being able to edit before I publish(sometimes I remember to do that!) or to not even regard a response.
So it seems to me that we are craving community yet fearful of it at the same time. And back to being known. I think the reasons people don’t like to be asked for ID are inconvenience, takes extra time, maybe a little pride, but mostly because it hurts our feelings to not be recognized even when we see someone every day. And we get embarrassed not knowing someone. For instance, do you see anyone on a regular basis but can’t remember their name to save your life? You’ve had some pretty good conversations with them so now its too late to fess up and tell them you can’t remember their name so you desperately seek out someone who does know their name so you don’t look foolish. This identity stuff is a sensitive issue. And yes, you can take it too far and be overly sensitive to it.
What is it about being known that makes it such a risky endeavor?